UPDATE: 12 Weeks Postpartum

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This year our oldest turned 4, and we had a new baby. Also, today is Mother’s Day.

Balancing my time between my two kids is still a struggle — a struggle which I was not prepared for.

I was also not prepared on how emotionally draining it can be. I was watching Ali Wong’s new Netflix special this morning and one of her jokes mentioned how our interest in glittery / bedazzled / rhinestone-y things is to compensate for the light inside of us getting sucked out by motherhood. I found it funny. My husband on the other hand wondered if that’s how I felt. Truth be told, I have my days. Just a couple of weeks ago I was walking around the mall looking for an outfit for our daughter’s Christening and I almost broke down because none of what I tried on properly fit. The baby weight usually doesn’t bother me but that day it did, and it creeps up on me once in a while.

Motherhood is tough. Keeping your tiny humans alive and raising them to be good people while keeping your s**t together and not losing your sense of self is tough.

All I can hope for is to be half the mother my mom is, and for my kids to understand I’m doing the best I can.

Their smile melts my heart.

Their tears and pain breaks my soul.

Their well being is my top priority.

They are my world.

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2018 Project Life | February

In the beginning of the year, I wrote about giving Digital Project Life a try. It was not an easy decision for me because I don’t know if it will be worth it. I did a fair amount of research and went ahead and purchased not only the Project Life App, but also LetterGlow (both apps purchased from the App Store). So far, both apps have been useful in documenting my early 2018.

Here is my February 2018:

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2018 Project Life | January

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In the beginning of the year, I wrote about giving Digital Project Life a try. It was not an easy decision for me because I don’t know if it will be worth it. I did a fair amount of research and went ahead and purchased not only the Project Life App, but also LetterGlow (both apps purchased from the App Store). So far, both apps have been useful in documenting my early 2018.

Here is my January 2018:

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3 Budget Friendly Valentine’s Day Date Ideas

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Since Valentine’s Day is a few weeks away, I figured I would write about celebrating Valentine’s Day on a budget. I am aware some of us would want to elaborately go on dates but the truth is sometimes we simply can’t afford it. However, there are things we can do to celebrate without breaking the bank.

  • Netflix and chill. Literally Netflix and chill. Netflix offers a variety of films to choose from when you want to watch a movie but don’t feel like going out and spending the extra money. This is one of the best time to catch up on your favorite TV shows, watch (somewhat) new films / documentaries, or to simply cuddle up with your significant other while you have a Nicholas Sparks movie on. If anything, you might need to spend money on snacks but there is a big chance those would be readily available at home. It doesn’t even have to be Netflix. It can be Youtube, the sports channel, or your PVR and chill.
  • Celebrate on a different day. I find celebrating on Valentine’s Day itself a bit overwhelming. There’s this pressure of making sure the day / evening / date goes perfect. But see, you don’t need to celebrate on the 14th and here’s why:
    • It takes the pressure off. It allows you to just enjoy the time spent with your partner focusing more on each other.
    • Something is always happening on a different day. Take Tuesdays for example. Take advantage of Toonie Tuesday events. Some cinemas offers either $2.00 or half price on movies on Tuesdays. You still get to go and watch a movie without it costing too much.
  • Stay at home. Bake a cake or cupcakes. Have some wine. Sit on the porch and catch up with each other. Raid your DVD / Blu-Ray collection for old favourites. Cuddle. Have a bath together. Play a board game. Go for a walk even if it’s only around the block. Make supper together. There are a lot of things you can do at home to make the day special.

So there you have it. A few ideas to celebrate Valentine’s Day without breaking the bank. Remember though, Valentine’s Day shouldn’t be the only time we make our partners feel special. Also, what’s more important on this day is how we are able to set aside the time to simply enjoy each other’s company.

What about  you? What are your ideas for budget friendly Valentine’s Day activities?

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2018 GOALS: Life, Reading, Blogging and Project Life

2018 GOALS | Life, Reading, Blogging and Project Life
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The beginning of the year marks the time where everyone is writing about their goals and/or resolutions for the year. I lot of the blogs I follow have blog updates regarding their goals for 2018 and here I am doing the same thing. I used to give myself a definite number of resolutions to fulfil but have come to realize that method simply doesn’t work for me at all. This time around, I would be giving myself goals to work on this year to better in certain aspects of my life/self. Here are my goals for 2018:

 

ON LIFE

  • Be a better parent. I want to work on being calmer, more patient, more present and more understanding. I want to be able to look at what my kids will do and be able to tell when to not make a big deal out of it.
  • Be a better wife. I need to learn what my mom does. SHe’s so good at keeping her distance when my dad is upset about something. She knows how not to take it personally and I greatly admire her for that. I seem to get upset when my husband accidentally blows up at me because he’s mad at a video game. I would end up thinking our day is ruined when truthfully he probably just needs to cool off a bit. I also need to learn how to keep my cool when the situation calls for it to keep both of us from turning on each other.

 

ON READING

My reading goal last year was to re-read books I fell in love with to re-kindle my love for reading. I did ok in the first month. All of a sudden I didn’t have the time and a whole lot of books are being turned into movies. And well, my TBR just kept growing.

This year my goal is to simply read. I’m not going to worry about how many books I get to read. Reading challenges will serve as inspiration for when I get in a rut instead of an actual challenge to fulfil.

So yes, this year, all I’m aiming for it to be able to read.

 

ON BLOGGING

I learned two things last month when I participated in Blogmas.

  1. It pays to plan out your posts. I did 12 posts for Blogmas and thank goodness I decided to plan my posts ahead of time. I was able to complete it without struggling to come up with ideas every morning before I go to work. Plus having a list of what I wanted to blog about allowed me to schedule a few at a time so I didn’t need to work on my blog as much during the holidays; and,
  2.  It IS a lot of work. As much I’m not exactly new to blogging, I’m still learning about the ways you can get traffic and exposure to your blog / posts. This means I do things manually. I am aware about services which will do social media sharing for you but I’m not in that place yet where I can afford to spend extra money for it.

This year, I’m hoping I stay on track with scheduling posts. I started using a blogging notebook to get all my ideas in one place, so hopefully that helps.

 

ON PROJECT LIFE

If you haven’t heard of project life, it’s pretty much a much simpler form of scrapbooking as it features pocket pages. That is the main reason I get into it because a blank canvas intimidates me. I can never get a proper page layout on my own so having pockets to insert pictures in are a lifesaver.

My main goal about documenting this year is to give digital scrapbooking a try. Becky Higgins offers an app where in you can make digital scrapbook pages right in your device. I’m still on the fence about it because I know I can pretty much do the same thing using photoshop. All I’m paying for is the convenience of being able to create pages on the go. I’m hoping to make up my mind soon enough.

 

So there it is. These are all of the things I would like to work on in 2018. What about you? What are your goals/resolutions for this year?

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